Within the U.K thousnads of mums, sons, and daughters will be getting ready for a special day. It is fathers day, and it is a day where, to quote Wikipedia
Father’s Day is a celebration honoring fathers and celebrating fatherhood, paternal bonds, and the influence of fathers in society
For many it really is a special day, whereas for others it is a once a year irritant involving being “nice” to some boring old beggar who you would much rather kick in the balls, but, for the purpose of this post let us say that it really is a cause for celebration
There is nothing wrong with showing affection towards a loved one, or honouring a lifetimes work or achievement, but my question is simply why should this, and many other special days, only occur on one day of the year
Wouldn’t it be a refreshing change to honour such events every day of the year, and by some small token of affection, to say thank you to our mums , dads, potential fiance’s etc for everything that they have done, and hopefully, will continue to do
This may well sound heretical if not downright blasphemous, especially to all caterers, retailers, florists, and card producers etc, but let me detail one or two examples to show you what I mean
Mun, Dad, Grandma, Grandad; take your pick, after all they have all both born and borne you, or your parents, and the chances are they have spent at least 18 yrs in parental chains, so why be so rude to remember them on just one day a year
One day you may well be in their position; maybe, as a parent, you already are, so how would you feel if you were partially or completely sidelined for nearly every other day of the year
I have always maintained, and will do so up until I die, that
- any decent relationship is about every day that a couple are together, and not just about one day, and that
- Valentines day, outside of its historical links to St Valentinus, has no meaning, place, or value within society other than filling up retailers pockets with gold
There you go, I’ve said it, and you might ask the question of how do I know
Twenty successful years of marriage, and over twenty years of retail or catering service sector experience, that’s how I know, and that’s why I say it’s time for all of us to change. I know that such a day is good for the economy, I accept that, as teenagers, the thrill of an anonymous card can be exhilarating, and as adults, it can be refreshing that your other half even recognises that you are still there; but it is a con, a big fat con, so why not throw it where it belongs.
I could almost refer you to the section above, and carry on from there, but that would be too simple. On an anniversary day you celebrate, or perhaps mourn, that on a certain day of the years you or a partner was involved in a specific event,or present at a certain place or time.
So what, why does that one day matter when it is the event, the committment, or the emotions that matters, not that it occurred one a specific day of the year. We’re all born and we all die at some point, and, if we are lucky or unlucky,(the choice is yours), we enter into a relationship, but are not such dates immaterial in relation to what such things really mean?
So in summary, why don’t we start to enjoy the totality of someones life and existence, in all its aspects, and over all of their time on thus earth, and in doing so rejoice that the individuals we love are just there, and the consequences of the events we remember can stay with us for all time?
Enough of my thoughts and views; what do you think of Fathers Day, and what memories or thoughts do you have of your father?
I hope your thoughts and memories are good ones, but Good night folks, have fun, oh, and a ,message to all you mums, and all your kids.
Please remember your dad like his steaming hot coffee in a mug of a morning, and not all over his….!
Just a thought folks, that all, but happy fathers day to all of you Dad’s out there; I just wish that mine was still around. I leave you though on a thoughtful note, and a reminder that so may things in life are so much more important than just one day?