Quiet please

companionship‘Tis the season to be jolly.

‘Tis the season to spend to much, eat and drink to much, and to get stressed out over the arrival of all the family and whether or not you have got this years must have special organic TV’ chiefs goose fat for those all important roast potatoes

‘Tis the season for watching our little darlings rip open our carefully wrapped christmas presents, before carelessly pushing them towards one side in favour of the next unopened parcel; all of which they will probably forget in a couple of minutes time.

Tis the season for loneliness, stress, family rows, and the beginning of the end for all to many relationships

Tis the season for all such things, as yes, it’s christmas; and for all of us working in the retail sector, all such scenarios invariably pass through our tills and by our eyes.

We are used it to it by now, us workers on the other side of the counter, and we are used to hearing of how things aren’t what they used to be, and of how the good old days were so much better. We smile, agree with you, and wish you a merry christmas, and sometimes we actually mean it, if we like you, and you are a regular or a decent customer, but regardless of how honest our words and thoughts may be, we know what conversation will occur in about a weeks time.

We will say to you

“Did you have a good christmas”

and you will say

“Oh yes, we had a good christmas,  a quiet christmas but it’s not the same without the children, it’s not so much fun”

Why do I say this, because we hear it every year, just as we see the post christmas flatness within the eyes of nearly every client or customer, as they review yet another depressing or disappointing christmas just gone.

My question within this post is why.

Why do so many of us mess up christmas so thoroughly, and why, when such a sequence is so clearly signposted, do we still set ourselves up for a fall?

Maybe myself and my wife are odd or peculiar, we certainly have been termed so, but we are going to have a really good christmas, as apart from one very grim year, we have always had a good christmas.

We are not going to eat too much (well, not too much). We are not going to drink too much, as neither of us enjoy being drunk or tipsy. We do not have any children, and no family will be visiting, and the presents we give each will be based on what we can afford rather than how far we can stretch credit card

So what is our secret for Christmas. It is our ability to sit in a room without the need to say anything because no words need speaking. We may watch T.V, we will certainly enjoy one or two seasonal luxuries, and  a couple of phone calls will be made to distant relatives, but that is all.

How many couples can say or do the same? Is it about peer pressure, is it about the rapid pace of life and the twin gods of consumerism and greed that we, apparently, all have to follow or adore, or is it something even simpler?

Have we simply forgotten to enjoy the quieter and simpler things of life? Have we forgotten how to stop and think for a moment, and forgotten pleasant it is to simply have our loved ones silently by our side

We don’t need all the “things” that make up a modern Christmas, and we don’t have to be part of the bellowing and stampeding herd.

Friends/ partners and funds allowing, we can have a good christmas, and we can give and receive the greatest gifts that can be given. ie friendship, love, and companionship. The choice is ours, if we are lucky enough to have such resources, so all to often, why do we ignore them, or cast them to one side?

Have  a good Christmas everybody, a really good christmas, and the next time some fool tries to drag you back into the seasonal maelstrom, have the courage to stand apart from the crowd, and by happy to say you had a quiet, simple christmas, without all the baggage on the side

Oh just a post script. For those who enjoy comparative costings, click here, It will take you back to Victorian Britain, and it has a very interesting story to tell!



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